Online Shopping Like a Boss!

Online Shopping like a Boss!

A few weeks ago a college friend, Kristina Slaney at All Mom Does introduced me to a new online savings opportunity through the company CardCash.com. She outlined the premise of the company in her post, and the gist is that CardCash.com purchases unused gift cards at a discounted rate, and then resells them, passing the savings along the the consumer. I combined CardCash.com with Ebates to maximize savings on a recent purchase - paying just 55% of the original price! Here’s how I did it:

Ebates

I love using Ebates and have used this to receive $225 in cash back since opening an account in 2014. The website allows the consumer to access thousands of companies and receive a check for a cash rebate for purchases made quarterly. The trick is you must start a shopping trip through their site. On this particular day, Ebates was offering 9% on any purchases from JC Penney. I clicked on the Ebates link that took me directly to JC Penney’s website starting my shopping trip that would lead to big savings. (If you’re new to ebates and follow this referral link you can get an additional $10 off your first purchase!)

Online Coupon

On the JCPenney website, I searched and found the pair of Oxfords that my husband wanted to buy. I proceeded through the checkout and used the online coupon for 15% that was plastered all over JC Penney’s homepage. When I got to the payment section and could see the final cost of the shoes after the online coupon discount, I stopped and opened a new window in my browser.

CardCash.com

I brought up cardcash.com and searched for JC Penney and found an online gift card that I could purchase that was $1.30 short of the final bill for the shoes. The gift card was sold to me at 10.5% of the face value and I received an additional $5 off of my first purchase by using a referral code (unfortunately that offer is not available at this time). It took about 5 minutes for the gift card code to hit my email, and then I could finish placing the order.

Finalize the Purchase

With the gift card code in my inbox, I bounced back to my open cart and completed the order with my card-cash purchase and my debit card for the remaining balance. These additional steps brought the shoes from their sale price of $54.99 to $31.08. I did end up paying a ridiculous amount for shipping ($8.95), and I realized after the purchase was completed that there is a store near my husband's work that he could have just picked the shoes up from.

JC Penney Price	Online Coupon	CardCash	Ebates	Total Price of Discounts	Price of Item	Shipping	Total Price
$54.99	$8.25	$10.71	$4.95	$23.91	$31.08	$8.95	$40.03

This is my first purchase with cardcash.com, but I know that I’ll be back!

Life Before Dave

I came across a box of old paperwork while filling working through our basement shelves for the 40 Days 40 Bags of Clutter campaign. The papers were jammed into a diaper box, so I knew they were old. As I started looking through old bills and scanning the dates, I realized this was a lens into our  pre-Dave Ramsey spending habits.

Prior to living on a budget, we used to use our credit card for every purchase we made and then pay it off when the bill arrived. When I say everything, I mean everything! By the dates listed on the statements, we ate out at least weekly, shopped at high-end grocery stores occasionally, and regularly purchased clothes and household goods in large quantities. Twelve years later, I have no recollection of what we purchased, but I can certainly appreciate what that time in my life felt like.

I felt entitled.

I had done well in college and worked hard during summers and school years to fund that education. I had a career I enjoyed, and I poured my time and energy into being well prepared each morning when my students arrived. I had married a wonderful man who was growing professionally each year at the start-up company he worked for. We deserved a house even though we had nothing to put down and couldn’t afford even the closing costs. We earned the right to eat wherever we wanted, whenever that might be. Looking nice was a part of the cost of  a professional career that we must either embrace or be left behind.

As D.I.N.Ks (Dual Income No Kids), we out-spent our current budget in many categories and ignored the ones we most value today. Today when I took out a calculator and added up the money we had spent as two twenty-year-olds in the categories of eating out, entertainment, clothing and Target, we more than doubled what we allocate today as a family of five. Categories such as savings and investing don’t show up on a credit card statement, but I know there was very little future planning going on beyond getting the match at work.

While these statements didn’t surprise me, looking at the numbers in black and white of a life that we  once lived that doesn’t align with our values today is a bit jarring. It makes me grateful we accepted the invitation back in 2006 to read The Total Money Makeover.  The invitation came just as the wheels started coming off our financial plan back then. I’m humbled and thankful that we have found a way to make this plan work in our lives in the decade since.

Where we “Splurge” and where don’t in Our Budget

Our family has been living on a paper or digital budget for about eight years. Achieving our financial goals without this tool would have been incredibly difficult. Our budget has been our plumb line, and an intentional way to align our spending with our values. That being said, there are places within our budget for extravagance. Here’s where we “splurge” and how we do it.

Vacations - One of the most tangible changes in our budget after retiring our non-mortgage debt is that we began taking family vacations. We began setting aside money that would normally go towards debt towards making memories away from home. Each month, cash went into an envelope for trips, and sometimes we’d allot extra money from side work, bonuses,  or refunds for a yearly trip.  Using these funds, we have visited Minnesota’s North Shore, Bayfield, Wisconsin, Belize, and Washington State.

These adventures are even more relaxing for us because we funded the trip, including activities, food, and entertainment, via a cash envelope. A Visa bill doesn’t follow us home, and we are able to fully enjoy our time away and feel like we are splurging, even though the spending was all accounted for on the front end. Mindful splurging has allowed us to make wonderful memories without sacrificing our bigger financial goals.

Christmas - Our son was six weeks old for his first Christmas. (He and his twin brother were six weeks premature, and for other reasons, our son Jack had passed away on Thanksgiving morning.) As new and bereaved parents, our first Christmas was scant.  Our boy received a single book from us, our families received a framed picture of our twins, and that was it. Using that first Christmas as a reference point, our current Christmas gift giving feels extravagant.

Each month we sock away money for an incredible day of shopping in early December. My husband takes the day off  work, and we find care for our children while we spend hundreds of dollars buying gifts for the people we love. It is fun, it is over the top, and it doesn’t break our bank account. Since we have been saving since the previous January, we are able to enjoy all parts of the gifting experience without worrying about next month’s bill.

Giving - I have found that giving generously to people, places, and ideas that we value is what I enjoy most about spending money. We regularly give to our church and other missions working for good in the world. This giving is drawn automatically from our checking account and has been on the top line of our budget since we began applying Dave Ramsey’s Baby Steps in our life. This planned and measured giving reminds us regularly that the money  is ours to manage, and the world ought to look different because of the wealth that has run through our hands each month.

The most fun I have with money is to giving an unexpected gift that addresses the need of a person I love. We have purchased so many Financial Peace University kits for friends and family that we should consider buying them in bulk. Hearing the stories about how this class changed the trajectory of their lives is incredibly fulfilling. Sometimes we do this anonymously and it is a hoot hearing a loved one talk about receiving a gift never guessing that it had come from us. Sending flowers, gift cards, or a meal to help out a struggling friend gives hope when we feel powerless. I am grateful to have married a man who believes these  opportunities should be regular occurrences, and agrees that they are a big part of the reason we ought to earn money and build wealth.

Our regular monthly offerings are a line item in our budget, and, at this point, involve little discussion or thought. There was a time that we had a line item in our budget called “The Big Give,” which we’d contribute to regularly to  set aside money for addressing needs in our tribe as they presented themselves. However, we’ve steered away from that and have decided that funding our “spontaneous” gifts ought to come out of conversation, and a deduction from a different budgeted category. (Sounds really spontaneous right?) For instance, when we give an extra offering for Global Missions at our church, we often forgo a month of restaurants as a family to fund that gift. By doing so, our kids get to participate in generating the money by skipping something they enjoy.

Our money follows our values, and we ought to spend more on the things that are most important to us. People matter most in life, and so they should show up in our budget as places we can intentionally be extravagant. Mindful splugring has been a wonderful way to use the money that we’ve been given, and I am always looking for the next way we can pay it forward.

When You Know What You're Working of

Our family had committed to following Dave Ramsey’s Debt Snowball plan as a way to attack $55,000 worth of debt.  This mountain of bills included medical debt, a student loan, a 401K loan, and our second mortgage.  Our first fervor and intensity began to wane as we successfully eliminated the smaller loans but were now staring at the remaining $35,000 adjustable rate second mortgage. The second mortgage had looked good as a way to bypass paying PMI in the era of creative home financing, but now the monthly payment was increasing at an alarming rate.   We needed a bigger shovel to dig ourselves out of the hole we were in.  We wanted that loan out of our lives.

We had been living on one income for approximately four years and began to consider seeking additional employment to speed up eliminating that debt snowball.  While we were discussing the logistics of my returning to work or my husband’s picking up a second job, my husband was offered a new opportunity at his growing company.  A new role would involve traveling to clients every other week.  This new job came with a substantial pay increase; a six-month review would determine if it was a good fit both for my husband and for the company.

He lasted five months.

Flying a few times a month, communicating with toddlers via phone calls, and building a strong marriage without his physical presence each evening simply wasn’t sustainable for our family.  My husband had an honest conversation with his boss about the situation and asked to return to his previous position and compensation.

Here’s the thing: he returned to his position, but his employer insisted on paying him much of that salary bump because of the ways he had grown professionally over the previous five months.  I remember being shocked that his company was willing to support our family in this manner. Usually employees pay for training that will result in higher pay, but my guy received that additional training on the job itself, and received a reward for it.

Those five months were really challenging for our family.  While I do not want to relive them, I am grateful my husband took advantage of the opportunity, and I was able to support him.  Trying out the new job opened doors for him professionally, helped define work/life balance for our family, and increased the size of our financial shovel for his career.

I am confident that none of this would have happened without our understanding of our financial situation and the shared goal of eliminating our debt.  Knowing that we were working to eliminate our mountain of debt made it easier to make the shared sacrifices of the five-month new job experience.  On those tough weeks when I was home with two cranky toddlers in search of a break, I could remind myself that this would last only until our debt was retired.  When my husband was working eighteen-hour days, he could remind himself of what this short-term sacrifice would provide our family in the long run.

Over the years of teaching FPU, we had met numerous families who have taken on extra work, extra hours, grown their own business or sought side jobs in order to generate additional income.  Their willingness to dig in and do the hard work to meet their long-term goal constantly impresses me.

Last week all three of our children started school.  After twelve years as a full-time stay-at-home mom, I am gathering my courage, summoning my confidence, and channeling my enthusiasm to re-enter the job market.  We have lived and thrived on one income, we have a plan for the additional money my work would generate.  That, in addition to the dignity of paid work, makes me excited for this next chapter in my career story.

The Struggle is Real

This week my sister bought my Mom a sign stating the obvious, “The Struggle is Real.” As the kids have returned to school and we’ve worked to relearn the school rhythm and routine in our house, I’ve thought of this phrase a dozen times. My hunch is that I’m not alone in feeling overwhelmed with trying to balance the demands of the outside world and creating a safe home where our kids can be who they are as we steer them towards who we hope they will become. A few years back after reading a bunch of books in a short period of time, I was inspired to figure out the goals for my kids.

1. Love God
2. Serve Others
3. Want to Come Home

It often seems that the most important things in life are really simple. Parenting with the end in mind, has offered grace in the times that we have messed up and gotten lost in the struggle; this mantra reminds me what’s important. For instance, this morning my toothless child came bounding into my room telling me that she heard the tooth fairy in her room and was excited about the dollar but confused why her tooth was still under her pillow. We talked about how the tooth fairy that visits our house is pretty terrible, sometimes she even forgets to show up for a couple nights in a row! While this magical part of childhood is fun, it’s not critical to the adult I want my daughter to become, and reminding myself of that allowed me to let it go.

On the other hand, we see a direct connection between finances and faith and therefore actively teach that to our kids though example, conversation and intentional learning opportunities. We want our kids to love God, and part of building this foundation in their lives comes from recognizing that all that we have has been entrusted to us to manage for God’s Kingdom. These conversations are just as important as attending regular worship services, participating in youth events and serving with the church.  

We are offering a new class at Augustna Lutheran Church starting in October called Smart Money Smart Kids which focuses on the values behind having a healthy relationship with money. The class is designed for parents to gain new insights about topics such as responsibility, patience, giving, honesty and contentment and how to encourage those traits in their children. These traits all fall within the Sanford end game goals, and learning and teaching about fostering this in our children will be awesome.

If you are local and interested in attending you can learn more about the details and sign up here. The cost for the six week class is $60 and will be held Sunday mornings October 2nd - November 13th at 9:45. Sign up by September 18th so that materials can be ordered.

Summer on the Cheap

Our kids wrapped up school this week and will be home with me for the next three months. This will be my 11th summer as a stay-at-home-mom. I’ve figured out that we do best when we have a few go- to activities that are cheap and we can do when everyone needs an outing to keep their sanity. Here’s a few ways we keep our family entertained in the summer:

Visit the Library - Our local library is incredible and has become a sacred space for the children and me. We have learned and grown in this old building for the past decade and plan on utilizing a ton of their resources this summer. The kids are signed up for for free engineering, art and theatre classes and the summer reading program. In addition to programed events, our library also offers DIY kits about topic like making tortillas, fixing your bike, creating magic or using a loom. Kits can be checked out for a few weeks with everything needed to to explore a new hobby. Each kit comes with both  a book and the tools necessary to start a new hobby. Minnesota also offers free museum passes through MELSA. Sign up with your MN library card and register for up to two events at a time. So far my daughter and I have been able to see a ballet and go the Bell Museum for free. The more you visit the library, the more you’re apt to find these wonderful, free ways to make memories with you family.

Utilize our Memberships - Summer is a great time to use existing memberships. For our family, we currently have memberships at the YMCA and the Minnesota Historical Society, and in the past have held memberships for the MN Zoo, Children’s Museum. and Science Museum. When family and friends ask for ideas for gifts for our kids, we often direct them towards memberships and activities because of our ability to take full advantage of them in the summer months. At the start of the summer the kids and I often make a summer bucket list. and many of these locations continue to make the list.

Get out into the woods - I read The Last Child in the Woods several years ago and it forever impacted the way I parent. The author, Richard Louv, describes how nature is essential to the healthy development of a child’s mind, body and spirit and that as technology continues to saturate our culture, children are losing this part of their development. I am grateful for the variety of ways our family explores nature together, and our greatest memories often include lakes and trees. Parks offer plenty of free ways to get outside with  hiking and biking trails all over the Twin Cities. For our family, the cost for a state park permit and fishing license holds its  value and continues to be a yearly purchase.

Free Summer Programs - Many businesses in our area offer free programs throughout the summer to get kids and families in the door. Usually  an additional purchase is required  for the free pass (shoe or skate rental for bowling or skating), but knowing that on a rainy day we have a cheap way to stay active is worth it.

Kids Skate Free - This year our local rink only accepts the coupons for free skating on the weekends.

Free Bowling - Each kid is eligible for two free games every day of the summer, they just need to rent shoes.

Free Movie Passes - Kati at True Couponing.com has detailed a ton of different savings programs at national movie theaters.

Serving Together - Serving with my children is one of my favorite parts of parenting. We have grown into this activity which  wasn’t easy when we first began but  has been well  worth getting over that first discomfort.. We began serving formally at Feed My Starving Children as each child reached the required five years of age and could reach and maneuver the food packing equipment. I still remember my middle son walking into the facility and asking, “Where are the starving children I’m supposed to feed?” Since then, we’ve also worked at Loaves and Fishes and the Boys and Girls club food servers and the clean up crew. My boys LOVE running the dishwasher, and a kind man at our church has taken them under his wing and supported this work. We often receive much more than we give in service to others, and finding opportunities to do this in summer months has been incredibly fulfilling to our family.

Einstein Vacations - Years back we attended a timeshare presentation and the speaker mocked the idea of only vacationing like Einstein (as in, it’s all relative). He got a good laugh, but the punchline never sat well with me. There was a season when ALL of our vacations HAD to be visiting family because we couldn’t afford anything else. Lodging, transportation, food, and entertainment are expensive and add up quickly when traveling with a family. We are fortunate to have family with access to cabins, lakes and woods and visiting really did feel like a vacation in that season. If this summer finds you in a place where vacations must be taken on the cheap, enjoy them for what they are, a chance to take a break from the routine and make memories in a different place.

Fight the Summer Slump - Before becoming a mom,  I was a middle school teacher, and I still feel like a professional educator deep in my bones. A few years ago our oldest two kids came home with their report cards that included their MAP testing scores throughout their academic careers. We noticed that each year, their scores dipped over the summer between the spring and fall tests, and took until the winter testing session to rebound. We’ve dubbed this the Summer Slump in our house and are trying to find simple ways to try to lessen the slide. Each week the kids receive a grid similar to the one pictured below and must work to cross out five boxes each day. We tie screen time to the completion of these tasks, and this has the side benefit of giving enough structure to our day that mornings feel like less of a free-for-all.

Our kids now know this work is coming, and actually look forward to seeing how the process  will be tweaked and changed to adapt to their new interest and skills. For instance, our oldest son has planned to begin writing a book this summer that he hopes to publish. Setting aside 20 minutes a day to write feels like a gift to him. Our middle boy created a Google Slide Show Presentation about World War II during the school year, and he wants to continue to add to the slide show this summer. Our youngest will be starting Kindergarten in the fall and is excited to do “school at home” like her brothers this summer.

I love summer because it has always felt like a reset button for our family. We can  remove ourselves from the stresses and commitments of the school year to  focus on our family relationships. However, without  structure, the vision of restoration quickly turned into the reality of a free-for-all. A game plan that aligns with our budget helps our family enjoy these months off of school together.

This is not an exhaustive list, but rather the starting point in a conversation. If there are free and cheap summer entertainment opportunities that you enjoy, please add them in the comment section of this post.

Passing on a Vehicle Upgrade for Something Better

Not actually The Jeep. No known photos exist.

When I first met my husband in in 2002, he was driving a 1995 Jeep Cherokee. He purchased it used before we met, and he drove it until we retired our debt in 2010. This vehicle was a story and made an impression on anyone who rode in it. The Jeep leaked when it rained, took the length of a commute to heat up in the winter, and had only three functional doors and one radio station (MPR in case you’re wondering). At one point during our debt snowball, it was stolen out of our driveway, and we kind of laughed at imagining the thieves realizing what a dump they had taken when the cops caught them on their “high speed” chase. When we retired our debt and were ready for a new vehicle, we gave the Jeep to a friend who was down a vehicle after fully disclosing its issues. It lived on another couple months for this family, providing a rocky mode of transportation until they could find another vehicle; the Jeep was finally junked.

Imagine my surprise when my husband began shopping for a replacement vehicle and landed on ANOTHER 1995 Jeep Cherokee. This time it was a fire engine red luxury model with heated leather seats. His reasoning was that he already had the repair manual and knew how to work on the vehicle. He recognized that for the time being, not upgrading our vehicle created the space for something better.

While we didn’t carry loans on either of our four wheeled vehicles into our debt snowball, we had a loan against a 401K that was used to purchase a motorcycle. Even though it was time to replace The Jeep, we were unwilling to take out a loan and opted for a garage sale replacement vehicle. It was the first time as adults we had purchased a car with cash, and the freedom that came from foregoing a payment was awesome. We were able to recognize that skipping an upgrade in vehicle allowed us to work quickly towards fully funding our emergency fund and return to investing in our retirement.

Today, many others are making a different choice when it’s time to buy a different car. Debt associated with a vehicle purchase is at an all-time high. According to Automotive News in early June 2016, Experian released data stating that the average new vehicle loan is $30,032 with monthly payments of $503 for 68 months. Used vehicle loans sold by dealers average $18,424 with monthly payments $376 for 66 months.

The best way to approach vehicle debt is to never get into in the first place. Instead of making a car payment to a dealer, pay yourself the monthly amount, and in a few months you can buy a beater. Keep paying yourself the car payment you would have accrued with a loan, and in another few more months, sell your beater. Combine the sale amount with your savings for a slightly less beat-up beater. We have purchased three vehicles since starting our debt free journey using this strategy. While it is not as easy or quick as securing a loan, the rewards of contentment and a cushion in your budget are worth the time.

If you listen to the Dave Ramsey radio show for a couple days, you’re bound to hear Dave telling a caller to, “Sell the car.” His guideline is that while working the debt snowball, you keep your vehicles if the total value of all of motorized assets are less than half of your annual income AND you can pay off any outstanding loans in less than two years. If any item pushes you outside this parameter, Dave advises to downgrade transportation, and sell the vehicles tied with the loans. If you owe more than the vehicle is worth, look into finding a bank that will lend you the difference and add that amount to your debt snowball. We didn’t need to take this step when retiring our debts, but a number of Financial Peace University Alum have shared doing this, and I am always impressed with their courage to own their past mistakes and work towards a solution.

My husband drove the second ’95 Jeep until it was 20 years old, and then sold it to a kid who had just got his license. He upgraded to an economic 2002 Honda Civic that has proven to be reliable and gets good gas mileage. I’m driving an ’05 Dodge Caravan with 160,000 miles. We continue to save monthly towards vehicle repair and replacement because these gems won’t last forever. The decision to forgo a substantial vehicle upgrade in favor of living below our means provides the space in our budget and lives to pursue other goals. We don’t want to surrender that vision to a car payment.