Summer on the Cheap

Our kids wrapped up school this week and will be home with me for the next three months. This will be my 11th summer as a stay-at-home-mom. I’ve figured out that we do best when we have a few go- to activities that are cheap and we can do when everyone needs an outing to keep their sanity. Here’s a few ways we keep our family entertained in the summer:

Visit the Library - Our local library is incredible and has become a sacred space for the children and me. We have learned and grown in this old building for the past decade and plan on utilizing a ton of their resources this summer. The kids are signed up for for free engineering, art and theatre classes and the summer reading program. In addition to programed events, our library also offers DIY kits about topic like making tortillas, fixing your bike, creating magic or using a loom. Kits can be checked out for a few weeks with everything needed to to explore a new hobby. Each kit comes with both  a book and the tools necessary to start a new hobby. Minnesota also offers free museum passes through MELSA. Sign up with your MN library card and register for up to two events at a time. So far my daughter and I have been able to see a ballet and go the Bell Museum for free. The more you visit the library, the more you’re apt to find these wonderful, free ways to make memories with you family.

Utilize our Memberships - Summer is a great time to use existing memberships. For our family, we currently have memberships at the YMCA and the Minnesota Historical Society, and in the past have held memberships for the MN Zoo, Children’s Museum. and Science Museum. When family and friends ask for ideas for gifts for our kids, we often direct them towards memberships and activities because of our ability to take full advantage of them in the summer months. At the start of the summer the kids and I often make a summer bucket list. and many of these locations continue to make the list.

Get out into the woods - I read The Last Child in the Woods several years ago and it forever impacted the way I parent. The author, Richard Louv, describes how nature is essential to the healthy development of a child’s mind, body and spirit and that as technology continues to saturate our culture, children are losing this part of their development. I am grateful for the variety of ways our family explores nature together, and our greatest memories often include lakes and trees. Parks offer plenty of free ways to get outside with  hiking and biking trails all over the Twin Cities. For our family, the cost for a state park permit and fishing license holds its  value and continues to be a yearly purchase.

Free Summer Programs - Many businesses in our area offer free programs throughout the summer to get kids and families in the door. Usually  an additional purchase is required  for the free pass (shoe or skate rental for bowling or skating), but knowing that on a rainy day we have a cheap way to stay active is worth it.

Kids Skate Free - This year our local rink only accepts the coupons for free skating on the weekends.

Free Bowling - Each kid is eligible for two free games every day of the summer, they just need to rent shoes.

Free Movie Passes - Kati at True Couponing.com has detailed a ton of different savings programs at national movie theaters.

Serving Together - Serving with my children is one of my favorite parts of parenting. We have grown into this activity which  wasn’t easy when we first began but  has been well  worth getting over that first discomfort.. We began serving formally at Feed My Starving Children as each child reached the required five years of age and could reach and maneuver the food packing equipment. I still remember my middle son walking into the facility and asking, “Where are the starving children I’m supposed to feed?” Since then, we’ve also worked at Loaves and Fishes and the Boys and Girls club food servers and the clean up crew. My boys LOVE running the dishwasher, and a kind man at our church has taken them under his wing and supported this work. We often receive much more than we give in service to others, and finding opportunities to do this in summer months has been incredibly fulfilling to our family.

Einstein Vacations - Years back we attended a timeshare presentation and the speaker mocked the idea of only vacationing like Einstein (as in, it’s all relative). He got a good laugh, but the punchline never sat well with me. There was a season when ALL of our vacations HAD to be visiting family because we couldn’t afford anything else. Lodging, transportation, food, and entertainment are expensive and add up quickly when traveling with a family. We are fortunate to have family with access to cabins, lakes and woods and visiting really did feel like a vacation in that season. If this summer finds you in a place where vacations must be taken on the cheap, enjoy them for what they are, a chance to take a break from the routine and make memories in a different place.

Fight the Summer Slump - Before becoming a mom,  I was a middle school teacher, and I still feel like a professional educator deep in my bones. A few years ago our oldest two kids came home with their report cards that included their MAP testing scores throughout their academic careers. We noticed that each year, their scores dipped over the summer between the spring and fall tests, and took until the winter testing session to rebound. We’ve dubbed this the Summer Slump in our house and are trying to find simple ways to try to lessen the slide. Each week the kids receive a grid similar to the one pictured below and must work to cross out five boxes each day. We tie screen time to the completion of these tasks, and this has the side benefit of giving enough structure to our day that mornings feel like less of a free-for-all.

Our kids now know this work is coming, and actually look forward to seeing how the process  will be tweaked and changed to adapt to their new interest and skills. For instance, our oldest son has planned to begin writing a book this summer that he hopes to publish. Setting aside 20 minutes a day to write feels like a gift to him. Our middle boy created a Google Slide Show Presentation about World War II during the school year, and he wants to continue to add to the slide show this summer. Our youngest will be starting Kindergarten in the fall and is excited to do “school at home” like her brothers this summer.

I love summer because it has always felt like a reset button for our family. We can  remove ourselves from the stresses and commitments of the school year to  focus on our family relationships. However, without  structure, the vision of restoration quickly turned into the reality of a free-for-all. A game plan that aligns with our budget helps our family enjoy these months off of school together.

This is not an exhaustive list, but rather the starting point in a conversation. If there are free and cheap summer entertainment opportunities that you enjoy, please add them in the comment section of this post.

Passing on a Vehicle Upgrade for Something Better

Not actually The Jeep. No known photos exist.

When I first met my husband in in 2002, he was driving a 1995 Jeep Cherokee. He purchased it used before we met, and he drove it until we retired our debt in 2010. This vehicle was a story and made an impression on anyone who rode in it. The Jeep leaked when it rained, took the length of a commute to heat up in the winter, and had only three functional doors and one radio station (MPR in case you’re wondering). At one point during our debt snowball, it was stolen out of our driveway, and we kind of laughed at imagining the thieves realizing what a dump they had taken when the cops caught them on their “high speed” chase. When we retired our debt and were ready for a new vehicle, we gave the Jeep to a friend who was down a vehicle after fully disclosing its issues. It lived on another couple months for this family, providing a rocky mode of transportation until they could find another vehicle; the Jeep was finally junked.

Imagine my surprise when my husband began shopping for a replacement vehicle and landed on ANOTHER 1995 Jeep Cherokee. This time it was a fire engine red luxury model with heated leather seats. His reasoning was that he already had the repair manual and knew how to work on the vehicle. He recognized that for the time being, not upgrading our vehicle created the space for something better.

While we didn’t carry loans on either of our four wheeled vehicles into our debt snowball, we had a loan against a 401K that was used to purchase a motorcycle. Even though it was time to replace The Jeep, we were unwilling to take out a loan and opted for a garage sale replacement vehicle. It was the first time as adults we had purchased a car with cash, and the freedom that came from foregoing a payment was awesome. We were able to recognize that skipping an upgrade in vehicle allowed us to work quickly towards fully funding our emergency fund and return to investing in our retirement.

Today, many others are making a different choice when it’s time to buy a different car. Debt associated with a vehicle purchase is at an all-time high. According to Automotive News in early June 2016, Experian released data stating that the average new vehicle loan is $30,032 with monthly payments of $503 for 68 months. Used vehicle loans sold by dealers average $18,424 with monthly payments $376 for 66 months.

The best way to approach vehicle debt is to never get into in the first place. Instead of making a car payment to a dealer, pay yourself the monthly amount, and in a few months you can buy a beater. Keep paying yourself the car payment you would have accrued with a loan, and in another few more months, sell your beater. Combine the sale amount with your savings for a slightly less beat-up beater. We have purchased three vehicles since starting our debt free journey using this strategy. While it is not as easy or quick as securing a loan, the rewards of contentment and a cushion in your budget are worth the time.

If you listen to the Dave Ramsey radio show for a couple days, you’re bound to hear Dave telling a caller to, “Sell the car.” His guideline is that while working the debt snowball, you keep your vehicles if the total value of all of motorized assets are less than half of your annual income AND you can pay off any outstanding loans in less than two years. If any item pushes you outside this parameter, Dave advises to downgrade transportation, and sell the vehicles tied with the loans. If you owe more than the vehicle is worth, look into finding a bank that will lend you the difference and add that amount to your debt snowball. We didn’t need to take this step when retiring our debts, but a number of Financial Peace University Alum have shared doing this, and I am always impressed with their courage to own their past mistakes and work towards a solution.

My husband drove the second ’95 Jeep until it was 20 years old, and then sold it to a kid who had just got his license. He upgraded to an economic 2002 Honda Civic that has proven to be reliable and gets good gas mileage. I’m driving an ’05 Dodge Caravan with 160,000 miles. We continue to save monthly towards vehicle repair and replacement because these gems won’t last forever. The decision to forgo a substantial vehicle upgrade in favor of living below our means provides the space in our budget and lives to pursue other goals. We don’t want to surrender that vision to a car payment.

Teaching Our Children About Money

Financial literacy is a core principle of our family, and importing this value to our kids is a parenting task for  which we assume full responsibility. We believe that the ways we give, save, and spend are a reflection of our values, and we  want to shape our children to see themselves as a steward of God’s resources. Creating intentional spaces to discuss money with our kids continues to be one of our favorite parts about parenting. Right now our three kids are each managing their money in different age-appropriate ways. Here’s how we’ve approached money as our kids have grown...

Preschool - From an early age we want to teach our kids the value of work and its  connection to money. Around the age of three, we give our kids the option of doing chores that were simple and easy to complete and pay them $1 for each task. They are paid immediately for tasks such as sweeping, arranging shoes, and washing the fish tank, so that they can make the connection between working and earning. The money goes inside a Mason Jar, and the money is theirs to spend whenever they  like. At this stage of the game, our main focus is making  the connection between work and money. We recognize that they are being paid exceptionally well, but we feel that their ability to make a purchase with that money is really important. Our youngest will be starting Kindergarten in the fall, and we will transition her into the next age bracket over the summer.

The Spending Envelope is missing because 

Elementary School - Our middle son has been using the Give, Save, Spend budgeting strategy for several years, and we’ve had lots of challenges and successes along the way. In a nutshell, when he earns money through completing chores, he deposits the cash into his Mason Jar.  After a week or two, he divides the cash into his three envelopes labeled: Give, Save, and Spend. Giving can go towards any organization he wants to support including school charity drives, our church, or something else. We have determined that the Savings envelope must reach at least $30 before he can spend it for  something he wants. The goal is teaching patience and longer investment. Spending is available for his use at anytime, or when he is close to his $30 savings threshold, he can add this amount to the other envelope.

When we began this process, he earned $5 a week if he completed all of his chores, and as parents, we told him how to divide his money: $1 into Giving, $2 into  Spending and  $2 into Savings. As this process has unfolded, we have encouraged him to play with percentages and build a plan that he finds more exciting . The goal at this stage is to understand his various options for using money.

Middle School - Our oldest will be starting Middle School in the fall, so is ready to upgrade  his budgeting process. A few weeks ago he created his first envelope system, and this gave us  a wonderful way to get a sense of  his values. First he wrote down ten categories where he enjoyed spending money. Next, I helped him rank these items in order of their importance in his life. Finally, we assigned a dollar amount that he would feel great about to save towards and then spending when he reaches that goal. Talking with him  about how our spending reflects our values has been an awesome experience, and it’s exciting to see him making these connections. We are early in this process, and there was much resistance the first time he had  to place his money in the envelopes, but I am full of anticipation for the connection he’ll make in the coming year. The goal of this type of budgeting is for him to see that money should follow our values.

High School - We have a few years yet, but we already have a plan for when the kids each reach high school.  We will give   them a chunk of money each month  to appropriately budget clothing, activities, entertainment. and other incidentals. We want them to make budgeting mistakes at home, so we can help them learn to distinguish between wants and needs. This process is outlined in Rachel Cruz’s book Smart Money Smart Kids, and we’re looking forward to seeing how it plays out in our household.

It’s worth noting that our system is far from perfect. I am terrible at chore charts and paying kids on a regular basis, so we usually outline a bunch of stuff that needs to be done on a Saturday morning, and everyone works to finish the tasks, and we pay everyone right away. We’ve had sneaky kids change where there their money’s designation, and even worse, swipe money from their sibling. This has given us the opportunity to talk to them at length about integrity and honesty. We also needed to figure out what to do about birthday and Christmas money because our kids would declare they would no longer do chores and would  just wait for their gifts to arrive. We opted to allow them to spend $25 of holiday money and add the rest to their savings account at the bank. Teaching kids about money can be really frustrating, but in those moments I try to remind myself not to  get caught up in the details. The value of financial literacy is worth the work.

One of the themes in Financial Peace University is that most people wish they understood how money worked before they became adults. Many families shy away from talking about money for a variety of reasons.  When people start looking for financial information as adults, often that information is  supplied by businesses who want to lend money. We want our kids to walk into adulthood with the skills to understand their finances and be empowered to make thoughtful decisions about money throughout their lives.